Single mom donates over $2k in baby items to her cousin who's having twins, cousin sells the baby items on Facebook hours later: ‘I feel... bamboozled’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Feb 8, 2025 7:00 PM EST

Let's talk about the expenses of parenting—especially when you first have a baby. Some folks say you can expect to pay upwards of $20k in the first year of your child's birth alone. "How the heck could it be so expensive?" you might be asking. Well, diapers, wipes, clothes (that they grow out of in literally 10 seconds,) and the rest of the necessary items for keeping a baby happy and healthy add up. Sure, some baby shower gifts can help you out in the beginning. of the baby's life, but they won't last forever! 

Hopefully, you're lucky enough to have family and friends who can donate some of their old baby items to you when you need them. The entitled cousin in this story was given a bunch of items by a kind family member, but instead of saying "thank you," she bad-mouths her family member and sells the $2k worth of baby essentials on Facebook. This isn't the first blip in the road between the two of them…

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  • "I gave my cousin over $2k worth of baby items. She sold them on fb within hours. What do I do now?"

    Hi Reddit. First time poster. Long time reader. I'm looking for some advice from other mamas (and a safe place to slightly vent). My favorite cousin is having her first baby. Twins- boy and girl.
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  • And I have a girl (17 months). She is married and alone she makes over $70k per year and receives a healthy stipend from an incident causing ptsd while she was deployed. Her husband
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  • works career military. They own a home. Just bought a brand new vehicle. Full va insurance for everyone in their family.
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  • I am a single mother who is lucky to see $45k a year with over time. Child support is $39 a week and he doesn't pay. I live with someone to help with the cost of housing. I live the definition of living pay check to pay check to survive.
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  • Alright, now the story at hand. Last Saturday I gave my cousin A LOT of baby stuff. Examples 10 bags/boxes of clothes/sheets/blankets/bi bs/swaddles/burp rags, a
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  • baby breeza, 2 puree steam makers, a cart, infant car seat and base, 2 angel care bath seats, baby toys, 15 bottles, several sleeves of diapers I couldn't exchange, shoes, socks. Anything I
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  • could bag/box up and pass along. When she picked the items up she made very negative comments about the stuff that was there but insisted on taking it all. She made a
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  • nasty comment about the breeza and formula feeding parents. Within 5 hours of her taking the items almost EVERYTHING was posted for sale on our local nosey neighbors fb page and
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  • from the post she sold everything within a few hours of posting. I feel very wronged and bamboozled by her taking my items. I was planning on creating her an approximate $300 postpartum care kit for her baby shower. But from
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  • evidence of the fb post she got more than that from selling all my stuff. I feel so deeply hurt and like anything/everything I gave her wasn't good enough. Do I even buy her a baby shower gift at this time?
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  • The woman should not buy her a baby shower gift. Even though her cousin makes nasty comments about the items donated, she still insists on taking them because she wants to make a quick buck from them. Instead of donating to mothers who might need the items more, she capitalized on the woman's donations and refused to feel guilty about it. Mothers should stick together, but it seems like the woman's cousin keeps herself on the highest of horses because she wants everyone to think she has it together. 

  • Further backstory- she has only seen my daughter 4x since she's been born. And one of them was the day she was born and my cousin made repeated nasty/insulting comments towards my
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  • daughter and her looks (note my baby won a gerber baby advertisement contest at 4 months old because of her cuteness). The most recent interaction was Christmas and my cousin purposefully avoided me
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  • and my daughter through the whole Christmas. And I have such a hard time parting with baby stuff because it feels like giving away memories of my child's babyhood and I thought the items would
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  • of been used to make memories with my cousins. baby like it did. And to sh on the baby breeza really gets to me. I feel like she's living in a delusional world like she'll never ever use
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  • any form of formula. The hurt from this situation has me question our years of relationship and future involvement in each others lives honestly. I vowed to never let someone claim to be in my village but not participate.
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  • Albany Barbiedoll Oh friend your cousin is a - taker and a user. I wouldn't even GO to her shower. If you do, bring nothing! Make a point of saying how you gifted her an entire carload of things and she sold them within hours! You and your daughter deserve better!
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  • PretendAct8039 I would not gift her with anything in the future.
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  • Ok_Play2364 I wouldn't be bothered to attend a baby shower for her. OR buy her a gifts for the birth.
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